Hi Deb, and welcome to the club.
I have the instruction book for the s type and I followed that to pair my iPhone and it took about 5 minutes. I have the touchscreen, though.
First you have to have Bluetooth. You have then to select Phone Mode and then use the touch screen to enter the following digit sequence
Hash tag -- hash tag -- 3 -- hash tag -- * -- hash tag [my laptop can't do hash tags]
The discovery screen should then be shown. Check your mobile phone is connected to Bluetooth, if not switch it on.
When Jaguar device is found you will be prompted to enter the pass key [1313] on your mobile phone key pad.
When the phone is successfully paired the Phone connected screen is displayed.
Let us know how you get on. If you have not got the touchscreen the process is via the audio system.
The X type handbook is available to download free on the internet.
Regards,
Peter.